Couples Counseling for ADHD (or AuDHD)

When they first met, she admired his spontaneity, sharp wit, and big dreams. Five years and two kids later, she’s fed up with those very same traits. Because now they read as inability to follow-through, inappropriate comments, and lack of attention to detail.

Sound familiar?

Whether one or both partners has ADHD, it can put quite a strain on a relationship. Unfinished tasks, misplaced items, chronic lateness, impulsive decisions, and difficulty staying present in conversation are just a few of the common problems. When both partners have ADHD, what once felt spontaneous can turn into chaos. When only one partner has it, a frustrating parent-child dynamic can develop.

What We Work On in Therapy

Couples therapy can help you move from conflict and confusion to connection and clarity. Some of the areas we may focus on include:

• Making sure both partners feel heard and understood
• Helping the non-ADHD partner understand how the ADHD brain works—and why certain behaviors happen
• Helping the ADHD partner understand how their actions impact their partner
• Dividing responsibilities in a way that’s fair and aligned with each person’s strengths
• Improving communication and reducing misunderstandings
• Creating household systems that bring calm and structure
• Managing emotions and staying grounded during times of disagreement
• Reducing demand resistance and eliminating parent-child dynamics

You Can Strengthen Your Relationship

ADHD doesn’t have to ruin your relationship—but it can’t be ignored either. With the right support, many couples learn to work together more effectively, communicate more openly, and build a relationship that plays to both partners’ strengths.